I have 2 kids who are just awesome. They are both special needs – one with autism and the other with major ADHD and Anxiety. They understand things differently than us. Which is cool cause it causes us to have some amazing conversations.
Which is big for me – cause as a kid I never really had conversations with my family. I’ll leave it at that cause I know they did the best they could in the circumstances they were in.
Anyways, I have always taught my kids certain words were bad – that were unconventional. Like: hate, fat, ugly, freaking, stupid.
Okay that last one is not really unconventional – but this has caused some interesting things to happen. Like how those words appeared in the bible.
Which opened up the most amazing conversations about how the bible was written thousands of years ago and in a different language. Which has helped them to understand certain things that I didn’t learn until i was 37.
Anyway, one day i said this to a “friend” who then mom shamed me for teaching them that. Saying we shouldn’t teach them words are bad that we still use everyday.
This person did this in a group of people – and yall know how I dont like confrontation. So i stayed silent.
But for real – arent we supposed to teach them better? To be better than us? Arent we supposed to set that example and follow through?
Now when I say those words, my kids reply with: “Bad word mommy” and I like that. it keeps me in check.
I want to be that example to them and I don’t want them to stumble like i stumbled. Isn’t that the way it should be? Making your kids better? Which in effect makes you better?