Doing the dishes

Y’all know me. I am huge fan of my husband, he’d kind … loving … such a big heart. He has taught me so much about being a servant though. No seriously. How? Well let me tell you: He sucks at doing the dishes. I know, i know such a thing to pick about but bear with me.

He does the dishes for me constantly. He does the clothes. He dusts. He cleans bathrooms. He does it all – without a grump. Without a complaint.

I grew up……………..lets just say differently. Gender roles were a big thing in our family. Women did this and that (insert what you want) because it was their job. Men did this (whatever) cause its their job – plus the women had to clean up after the men…why? Cause they didn’t know how to do it right. Do you get my topic yet?

no? Well….

see … we … ha. I … I have a control problem.

I know I know

But seriously. When I used to see my husband doing the dishes? I would do them again…“correctly“. In front of him.


No words at that shining moment.

No see heres where it gets worse – I know his love language is serving. So me doing that? Double slam in the face. Nope. no shining moments here for Jess.

I am still in shock this man loves me sometimes.


Then something changed and I started to see him like God saw him. How God sees us.

We definitely don’t do things right – not even close. But thats not the point right? Its the fact that we are doing things for God – that shows the love right? God doesn’t come down and try to fix what we mess up right? He lets us make our mistakes – teaches us when needed and loves us through it.

He lets us love Him and serve Him on our terms (according to the bible of course) – thats part of the free will that He gives us ya know? So who am I to tell my husband he’s loving me wrong?

And if anyone thinks that he knows anything, he knows nothing yet as he ought to know. But if anyone loves God, this one is known by Him.

1 corinthians 8:2-3

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