Marriage is hard

man. yall? Marriage is so hard. Living with someone who doesn’t think like you? Someone who challenges you on everything? Yeah thats hard and man does it bring heathen Jess out.

But heres the thing – thats where God grows us. Loving someone who at times breathes so annoyingly? Yeah God wants you to love that person unconditionally.

I see women bashing their husbands online – for laughs – and that is not what God has called us to do. Believe me – I was one of those. I used to tease (as I used to justify it) him online constantly. I couldn’t help it (allegedly) and yall that would cause us some major arguments. I just couldn’t see …. him.

Not to mention the added trauma i had to deal with? This was so hard for me to understand. I couldn’t comprehend loving someone who didn’t think like me. How can I?

Then my mom said something: “Who said you had to love him constantly? Who said you had to always like him? God doesn’t expect us to be perfect but to love….like Christ loves us.”

Gotta admit? That didn’t hit for several years.

But I can say honestly now I get it.

As much as I get mad and want to complain about and make fun of my husband – i don’t. I don’t even complain to my mom. I try to uplift him as much as I can. I am 10000000000% NOT perfect at it. But then i remember 2 things:

1. If I am annoyed by my husband – i remember that he obviously gets annoyed with me. People have called my husband a saint. They don’t know our life but what they see? Is his love. Even when I am pissing him off to no end – he still shows his love for me.
2. how much have i sinned and turned my back on God and He still loves me. unconditionally and true. Who am I to say someone doesn’t deserve love? Oh how I could tell stories of how evil i was….and yet God still loves me.

Here’s another thing: Marriage is hard by itself …. add to it the attacks from the enemy on the family as a whole. Dude. Think about it – how the enemy has truly been attacking families…marriages…everything. We need to be on extra alert my friends because the family? Is the example God gives us for the church.

 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—

Ephesians 6:18